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Category: micro aggressions

Masking & Internalized Ableism

This post is a long one. Before going further: Trigger Warning: The following blog post explores suicide, depression, anxiety, trauma, sexual abuse, bullying, and ableism in an attempt to dispel fog around these stigmatized issues. Proceed with care. I’ve written about masking before, but as a refresher—masking is when an autistic person pretends to be…

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“She does this for attention.”

“She calls it a meltdown, but it’s just a temper tantrum because she didn’t get her way.” “You have control over your behavior. Stop making excuses and calm down.” “So much drama.” “I don’t love you when you act like this.” For November 2018, I’m exploring different things people have said to me, then the…

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“You need to calm down.”

For November 2018, I’m exploring different things people have said to me, then the internal thoughts those remarks stirred. Today I had surgery. Today I might write a wee loud. I told every medical professional I met, from doctor to blood draw, that I’m on the autism spectrum, and I’m also sensory sensitive; so let’s…

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“You’re autistic, but…”

For November 2018, I’m exploring different things people have said to me, then the internal thoughts those remarks stirred. “Yes, you’re autistic…” “…but you’re so high function.” “…but my rheumatoid arthritis is worse.” “…but it’s only barely, right?” Okay. So what is “only barely” autistic? What is “high function,” in your mind? Am I the…

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“Women aren’t autistic.”

For November 2018, I’m writing daily posts where I explore different things people have said to me, then the internal thoughts those remarks stirred. I couldn’t disagree with you more. I daresay autism is equally common in males and females; the gender divide is the result of male-focused medical research, nothing more. But haven’t you…

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